Excuses. We all use them for one external thing or another, but do we realize the number of excuses we use on ourselves? Do YOU, yes YOU, know what purpose they serve?
"I will start working out tomorrow"
"I'll start eating well on Monday"
"I don't have time"
"I want to XY and Z, but I can't have them because....."
"I don't know how to cook, so I have to buy from the store"
"I can't work out, I have an injury"
"I can't take yoga, I'm not flexible"
"I am bad at xy and z so I can't possibly..."
"I will never be able to take a vacation..."
"I know they don't treat me well, but who else is going to want me?"
"I can't quit smoking/drinking/harming myself"
Any of those sound familiar?
According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary an excuse is as follows:
"1 a : to make apology for b : to try to remove blame from 2 : to forgive entirely or disregard as of trivial importance : regard as excusable <graciously excused his tardiness> 3 a : to grant exemption or release to <was excused from jury duty> b : to allow to leave <excused the class>"
My personal definition: An excuse is something to keep you from being exactly who you are in order to stay comfortable with who you've been.
Are you going to apologize for being you? Are you going to blame the world (past, present or future) for your problems and expect them to fix those problems that are in your life? Are you going to minimize your wants and desires so you can make others happy at the sake of your own happiness and often times health? Are you going to grant yourself a pardon for living up to your true nature and potential? Are you going to sit by and witness your life pass without loving every moment?
Are you going to radically be yourself? Are you going to see the situation as it is and take control of the only thing you can - your role and your life? Are you going to put yourself first so that you can better serve others and grant all parties health, joy, love and peace? Are you going to own your nature and actually LIVE your life?
Personally and physiologically, the second list sounds a bit more appealing to me. It's shown by multiple research studies that people with a greater sense of well-being tend to think more like the second set of questions than the first. These individuals have a lower risk of cardiovascular disease, obesity, depression, and chronic anxiety as well as other health concerns and recover much more quickly from injuries and illnesses when they occur. They have lower medical costs, take less sick days and are proven to be more productive, which in turn leads to a larger amount of "disposable income" for fun, vacations, savings accounts, investments, etc.
If you find yourself aligning more with the first set of questions and excuses, but want to get yourself to the second set and that bigger bank account ask yourself what is possible when you take accountability? When you focus your energy where you actually want it to go? What happens when you stop focusing on the problems and start focusing on the solutions and opportunities?